For Mothers

For Mothers: Father’s Day

Father’s Day 

In the UK, the nation has just celebrated Father’s Day.

Fathers are vital to a child’s well being. Sometimes a father-figures substitutes for the biological parent and is an equal blessing! The the value of a father cannot be denied when we want the best for our children.

Western culture, certainly English-speaking Western culture, likes to highlight the value of the father of the family once a year, just as it does the mother.

Sadly, the nuclear family has been disintegrating over recent decades and so many children lack two parents, one of each sex.

Why fathers are important?

When a child is young, s/he particularly needs the mother for security. Then pre-teen, the father’s role kicks in to nurture the confidence of the child.

I realise this might be controversial for some readers, and for others — where perhaps the father figure is absent — a worry. Suffice to say, there are copious studies which have been done over decades that reiterate the value of mother and father in different ways and at different times in a child’s life. But for efficiency, I’m simply condensing this information to say: before a child reaches the teenage years, a well-established relationship with his/her dad to carry through adolescence enhances a child’s life and growth morally, intellectually, emotionally, socially.

What if there is no father?

No matter our politics, we can’t escape that it takes two to make a baby, a male and a female. (Yes, science tries and to some degree has achieved success in creating life without both parents, but don’t they still need a sperm and an egg?) 

If circumstances don’t allow for a child to grow up in an environment with a father, a paternal figure, a male who will love and encourage the child, can play a vital role in building the emotional health and self esteem for a child. The knock on effect for social and intellectual security and growth will be positive and enriching. And the value to society is recognisable too.

There are male relatives, family friends, teachers and sports / club leaders all who can enrich a child’s life.

Don’t panic

We mustn’t fret if life’s circumstances haven’t provided for a father in a child’s life. But recognising the child’s need for a father is the first step in security for that child a future with its greatest richness.

Mothers are vital

I’d like to conclude this post “For Mothers” by saying, we are vital to our children’s lives. Just because we become less important to aspects of their growth in the later years of childhood doesn’t mean we aren’t important. We are! It’s just that children’s needs morph — just like their shoe size — and we need to be aware of it and ready to encourage fathers in their relationships with their children, to draw nearer when the children draw towards their teens.

Every blessing:)