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For Mothers: TIME

On the last blog post, I touched on the issue of Time as an important part of parenting. On this occasion I’d like to focus upon it.

Time

A mother’s time is taken up with work, our partnership with the other parent (or compensating if parenting solo), attention to our children’s direct needs, taking care of our health and that of others’ in the family. 

Feeding, clothing, ensuring child development: physically, educationally, socially, emotionally, spiritually cannot really be delegated, though the brunt of time spent at school or with church-related activities, social “playdates” and heart-to-heart conversations with others does help. But really, you and I know that ultimately, “the buck stops here” which is why I created this blog in the first place.

For Mothers

This space is about you and me, the mum for whom there is no retirement — not really. 

And so we need to be able to balance our time: our attention, our devotion, our awareness, our support for our children, always balancing a giving with a letting go as they grow.

We need time for them, time for others, time for ourselves. 

The best use of our time

Learning to prioritise is key. How do we do that? 

For me, it has always been considering that, in the long run, what is important > is more important than what is urgent. That fits for every compartment of our lives.

Compartment of Parenting

And so, yes the late homework or the fire on the stove needs attention. 

But somehow, we mustn’t drop the ball on the important: consistently leading and guiding our children to their homework (so it isn’t late), to brushing their teeth (so the emergency trip to the dentist doesn’t arise), to respecting others (so the fist fight or the trauma in the school ground doesn’t happen… or they already know how to cope when they see it coming).

“Prevention is worth a pound of Cure”

Giving time and attention to the little things, day by day, keeps, our children emotionally, socially safe and attended to as they navigate nursery and school. Prayer every night builds their spiritual awareness so they don’t have a vacuum that needs filling and gets filled with self harm as a teen. Good eating and hygiene habits ensure life long physical health and strength. 

At the heart of life is our learning to balance our time, focusing on what’s important in the long run.

Long-term vision

Taking the long view, rather than living in crisis management, will give us the ability to live and thrive. This is for ourselves and for the rest of the household.

So I guess the takeaway here is to learn to manage our time: for all us mums to let time be our friend and to allow us to manage our time as a gift, to respect and treasure it, to do the important things consistently, so that our children benefit most from the time we have to give them.