For Mothers

For Mothers: Election Results… and Parenting

Election results and parenting

There has just been a general election in the UK. The results have come in and we will have the same government for the foreseeable future, up to 5 years.

But: What on earth do the general election results have to do with parenting?


Sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. We have to pick our battles and fight for what we think is right. But sometimes we just have to accept things the way they are.

It applies to the results of an election in a democratic country. It applies to parenting as well.

So… mothering is like running in an election: we win some, we lose some, but we never give up for what we believe in. It’s just that sometimes we don’t get things the way we want them to be. And we love our family (and our nation) whether we manage to get the rest of the household on side or not, in any particular issue.

Likewise we can teach our children the same principle:

Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, but you keep going no matter what, adapting to your circumstances as best you can and doing your best in every circumstance. This is what we model and what we teach our children.

Pick our battles

As parents, we are ultimately the leaders in the household, with the children being the followers. We want to lead well, and want to influence our children in positive ways.

Therefore we have to choose the battles we fight. 

We cannot live the illusion of control by insisting on always having our way, and yet nor can we abdicate our responsibility as a parent by giving in on every issue that arises. So, we need to be wise about the issues we make issues — we need to decide what’s really important… and what is relatively unimportant, so that our children will have their freedom too, to make their own decisions. 

Some things will be in our Manifesto*, other things we need to let our children determine, so they can develop confidence, decision-making skills, and explore their own ideas in order to develop their own boundaries and principles.

Stick to our guns and yet be flexible

I suggest we need to stick to our principles and yet allow flexibility in the things that really don’t matter. That way, everybody wins once in a while, and yet, the things that really matter remain under our jurisdiction for as long as the children are children.

*Manifesto: includes promises, principles and determinations we aim to achieve and do not wish to compromise on because we attach high value and importance to them

Politics and Society today

Election Fever Pt 3 Judeo-Christian values

I’ve heard one national candidate in the general election say he stands for Judeo-Christian values. Bravo! So do I.

Shall we vote?

I have at least one brother in the LORD who is so fed up with politics that he says he won’t vote. I’ve disagreed with him and explained the value of our democratic vote, that we’re meant to pray for our leaders and rulers. But he and I don’t agree on this matter, though we agree on many other matters. He is faithful to Jesus regardless of his politics. Praise the LORD!

I think we should vote if we can, because society depends upon those who believe GOD, whether they agree to this reality or not. 

The Word says we are to pray for our rulers that we may have a peaceful life. 

The Word encourages us to engage in society, to lead people to the Truth.

The conclusion I draw from this is that, when we live in a democracy, it is our duty, calling, responsibility, to be involved, even if it is only to the degree of putting an X in a box.

The LORD brings the leaders we deserve and if we can pray and take His lead, He will hear us and may give us leaders who may bring about good laws and conduct. 

“If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.” (2 Chronicles 7:14)  

How shall we vote?

Whether it is according to our conscience, or according to a prompting directly from the LORD, we will know how to vote if we study the candidates.

Studying to show ourselves approved

“Be diligent to present yourself approved to God, a worker who does not need to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” (2 Timothy 2:15)

We need to become familiar with what the candidates stand for…

We need to put all cynicism aside. Each candidate needs to be scrutinised by us, if we are to vote according to the LORD’s leading.

That’s what I think.

For some, this will be analysing the manifestos, watching videos and tv debates, and/or going to hustings.

For others, it will mean looking at the flyers that come through our doors, praying over each one to ask the LORD for guidance. 

For some, it will draw us to go against the grain, as the LORD leads us in a direction we don’t understand or don’t like. For others, it will be confirmation of our initial discernment.

For many the process may not be an easy one. But it’s important.

This is a battle for our nation

At the present time, our society is in chaos: economic, moral, spiritual. 

If I may, I encourage you to find the party or the candidate, or the leader whom you believe will best represent Christian values, so that our society can find its Judeo-Christian roots once again. If time is short, and I personally think it may not be long before GOD intervenes in our society on the grandest of scales, we need revival in this land. We need Jesus back in our schools and at the centre of our holidays. We need the values GOD has offered people through His Word to be returned to the United Kingdom.

I’m going to vote as one step toward this goal.

In Jesus’ name.