What GOD intends for married couples is the leave and cleave principle…
Preparing the Bride for GOD’s Story
How do we prepare as the Bride of Christ? One aspect is to learn GOD’S STORY. He created us in His image…. Piece by piece, and peace by peace, we learn to walk as He has walked. And we learn His perspective.
Male discovering Female
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” (Genesis 2:24-25)
Imagine as a man, awaking to the presence of Eve, a more beautiful, softer, gentler version of yourself. Wow!
And this is what happened for Adam.
Adam went to sleep alone but awoke with Eve in his presence (Genesis 2:21-23)
Significance of Eve’s arrival
When Adam says, “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man” (Genesis 2:23) he sounds excited! Then they get married and establish the template for marriage:
The man leaves his parents and becomes one flesh with a woman, his wife. And there is no shame.
That’s the template for marriage: one person in two, one body nurturing all its parts, soul and body laid bare and without shame.
What about singleness
Paul talks about singleness and prefers it. But he also says it is better to marry than to sin (not to have sex out of wedlock, I assume he means). Singleness is a calling, just as marriage is a calling. We are not incomplete if we don’t marry. It is simply that if we do, a healthy marriage means the man no longer is tied to his parents, and the man and woman enjoy one another and feel as naturally comfortable when together as if they were still alone.
Leave and Cleave
So I hope and pray for marriages, that we can get back on track as a society, and at least for those who love Jesus, that we can love GOD, love one another, but especially prioritise and enjoy the marriage that GOD intends for us: intimate, free and surrendered to one another in trust, devotion and love.